Everybody is getting older. We are all in fact travelling through time at a rate of one second per second, in an inescapable journey into the future. In general I don’t worry about this particularly, most of the time my internal age is somewhere between twenty and twenty-five, and I’m happy like that.
My external age though, continues to increase, as does that of everyone I know. Still, that’s usually a fact of very little consequence to me. Until this week when I encountered a newspaper report which said ‘the porn industry treats sex over forty as a fetish’!
I stopped to think when I read that. Really? Is having sex over forty actually unusual?
I’m well aware that most people I’ve discussed it with believe that their parents don’t have sex, despite the clear evidence to the contrary. Unless of course, you know you were conceived entirely by medical science or a virgin birth. Feel free to let me know if you can prove the latter. Is this the same problem in another form? Do twenty-somethings really believe that when they get to forty that they won’t want to ‘do it’ any more?
Certainly porn does indeed often present sex as something for young attractive people only. I’ve also been disappointed by the way fantasy writings portray sex and ageing as well. The Gor novels (and there’s a whole load of controversy there I know), present the scenario of young desirable women being captured to be sex slaves and then promptly vaccinated to prevent them ageing. Heinlein started off in a better vein presenting sex as a continuing and enjoyable part of life, but rather spoiled it for me by rescuing his ageing heroine (Mama Maureen) and promptly rejuvenating her, so she need never be old again.
None of this ‘sex is for the young’ reflects reality as I see it. Certainly ageing brings about changes, and the sort of sex people have does tend to change in some ways as they get older. But wouldn’t it be nice just to say older people love having sex too.
Certainly when I’m forty, and fifty, and sixty, and…well you get the idea. I intend to carry on enjoying my sex life to the full, and I hope you all do too.